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a connection experiment

A place to find your people.

Dating and friendship, with more in common. Choose who to meet, start a conversation, and make a plan together.

  1. Choose your intent

    Dating, friendship, or both. Set your preferences explicitly.

  2. Meet people

    Explore your dating roster or local friendship invitations.

  3. Decide together

    You choose who to connect with. Dating chat opens after mutual acceptance.

  4. Talk and make a plan

    Start a conversation, agree on details, and choose what works for you.

Profile setup in detail
the basics

everyone starts here.

1
📝 sign up

name, email, a 6-digit code to prove it’s you. born in Boston, now open across the Northeast — all of New England, the NYC metro, and North Jersey.

2
🧠 take the core quiz

a short, chaptered run — who you are (personality), the day-to-day (lifestyle), and a rapid-fire round. ~4 minutes, no photos, no performing.

3
🚉 choose your connections

choose friendship, dating, or both. Home shows real member invitations. Join a small-group plan or request a free two-person date; the date host chooses one guest. Your existing conversations stay available when you explore another city.

chapter one · dating

💘 the love line

🧭
go deeper on love

a few more questions — what you’re looking for, how you connect (attachment style), and what matters most (values, kids, lifestyle, fitness). that’s what the matching actually weighs, not just vibes.

🃏
your curated roster

the algo can hand you up to ten compatible people: three included connection picks plus seven browseable alternatives, ranked on values, attachment, personality and shared rapid-fire answers — no swiping, no endless feed.

👉
you pick

every 24-hour roster includes three distinct connection picks. all ten profiles stay free to browse when enough compatible people are available. a one-time $0.99 AI Compatibility Read adds a private six-signal fit summary and one extra connection to that exact person—one purchase, never two. if the request is declined or expires before becoming mutual, its connection value returns as an in-app credit while the read stays open.

💞
it’s a match

when you both accept, the chat opens and we email you both. set your match radius (5–75 mi) so you only see people you’d actually meet.

🔓
profiles stay free

open any Love roster card to see their bio, interests and prompts before choosing. accepting, replying, blocking and reporting never cost anything. the optional AI + HEXACO tab interprets broad six-signal bands between you; raw answers and exact scores stay private, and it is never presented as a diagnosis or guarantee.

🍽️
plan the date

once you’re talking, Date Vibes makes choosing what to do a game — a deck of curated local spots and live events; a mutual yes reveals the plan.

chapter two · friends

🧡 the friend line

🧡
join the friend line

a quick friend quiz — the activities you’re into, who you’re open to meeting, your age range. platonic only, its own separate pool.

🎒
open a friendship pack

a pack is up to 5 people picked for you to meet. your first pack is free; more weekly packs are $0.99 (free on Pro). packs pace how many people you SEE — the connections themselves are unlimited.

🤝
connect — your 1:1s

tap connect on anyone in a pack; they get a ping, and when they accept back you’re connected for good. connect with as many people as you like.

💬
the group chat

choose the whole pack to open a group chat with everyone in it — the room you meet in. people who opt in are active; the rest show as invited.

🪪
connections, added & dropped

click any connection to open their friend card — their interests, your match, and a button to connect or to drop the connection. drop one and you quietly leave the shared chat if they were your last tie there. only connections can message each other.

🎟️
do something together

browse member plans, meet people through curated introductions, and come back to your chats. New social plans fit 2–10 people including the host; dates are always two people. Times are shown in the meeting city’s timezone. Clubs and communities are still available.

🎟️ your fare

the quiz and every Love profile are free. each roster includes three connection picks; each additional distinct pick is a one-time $0.99 and includes chat if mutual. on Friend, your first friendship pack is free — additional packs are $0.99 each, and group chats are always free.

or go Pro — AI Compatibility Reads, extra Love connection picks, and unlimited friendship packs for $3.99/mo. accepting and replying are always free.

The August Dating Experiment is complete and entries are closed. View the completed round.

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