everything you’d want to know before you sign up.
The anti–dating-app. No swiping, no scrolling a catalog of strangers. You take a short personality quiz, the algorithm curates a small roster of your most compatible people, and you choose who to meet. Two lines: Love (dating) and Friend (platonic crews).
A personality quiz — HEXACO traits, your attachment style, what you value, and a rapid-fire round — powers it. We score real compatibility on who you are and what you want, not photos or a swipe count, then show up to ten curated options: three included connection picks plus seven browseable alternatives.
Really. Endless swiping is what burns people out and turns dating into a numbers game. We show you a few people who actually fit and let you choose. That’s the whole point.
The quiz and every Love roster profile are free. Each 24-hour roster includes three distinct connection picks. A one-time $0.99 AI Compatibility Read explains all six HEXACO-inspired personality signals between you and one person and includes an extra connection to them—so you are never charged twice for the read and the pick. If that connection is declined or expires before becoming mutual, its value returns as an in-app extra-connection credit while the read stays open. The recipient never pays to accept or reply. Blocking and reporting are always free. On Friend, your first friendship pack is free and additional packs are $0.99. Pro is $3.99/mo and includes compatibility reads, extra Love picks, and unlimited Friend packs.
It is private decision support for you: all six personality dimensions in broad bands, where your patterns may align or differ, two potential strengths, useful watch-outs, and a low-pressure first-date angle. It does not expose raw quiz answers or exact trait scores, read messages, diagnose anyone, or promise chemistry. NotCupid uses an abbreviated HEXACO-inspired screen—not the full research inventory—and shows a curated fallback if the AI service is unavailable.
Born in Boston, now open across all of New England plus the New York City metro. Matching stays local — within a range you control — so you can actually meet up.
The platonic side, same personality engine. It’s for finding your people — weekly packs, 1:1 connections, a pack chat, the Scene for real plans, and City Pulse for clubs, community hubs, and what neighborhoods are active.
About four minutes, chaptered like an experience: who you are (personality), the day-to-day (lifestyle), and a rapid-fire round. No photos, no performing — the algorithm clocks when you’re not being honest.
Yes. Your core quiz powers both lines — board whichever you want, or both.
Please do — someone chose you. If you keep letting matches expire without ever responding, we’ll quietly pause you from new rosters until you re-engage; accepting any match brings you straight back. It keeps the pool fair for the people who actually show up — silence wastes more of someone’s time than an honest no.
You can block and report anyone, we never show your exact location (just a fuzzy metro and distance band), and date-safety tips are built into your matches. People who repeatedly ghost get paused.
A Boston-first experiment whose August 20 dinner round is now closed to new entries. A private intro video was optional and never changed eligibility or selection. A coverage-first system gives qualified entrants up to two reciprocal options. People privately say yes to either, both, or neither; only mutual yes pairs enter the final compatibility-weighted selection for up to two dinner pairs, each covered up to $200. Nobody can win twice, and paid membership never improves offers or odds.
NotCupid runs in your browser, but you can install it like a real app. On iPhone: open notcupid.com in Safari, tap the Share icon (the square with an arrow), scroll to “Add to Home Screen,” then open NotCupid from your Home Screen. On Android / desktop Chrome: tap “install the app” when the prompt appears, or use the browser menu → Install. Notifications: Android and desktop can turn them on right in the browser, but iPhone only allows notifications once you’ve installed the app to your Home Screen (iOS 16.4+) — they don’t work in the Safari tab. So on iPhone: install first, open the app from your Home Screen, then tap “🔔 get pinged when you match.” A native App Store version is on the way.
From your profile settings, any time — full account deletion, no hoops.